What do you do when your parents fight all the time? 👊🏽 👊🏽
Well if you’re anything like me, you suggest helpful measures that they blatantly ignore because apparently they enjoy fighting.
I’m old enough to go to couples counseling myself but honestly amidst all this “fighting” that my parents do, I don’t have the mental space to look at my own marital issues.
And it’s not like my parents have some deep rooted issues or serious relationship problems. They just fight on each and every small thing like when they eat breakfast and if the cereal is “too sweet” and whose fault is it or whose turn it is to do the dishes or make tea. And when I tell them they can hire help to do all this, they just dismiss my suggestion calling it a generation gap and how we can’t support ourselves.
I mean do parents understand what kind of trauma it cause their kid to be in constant fear of when they are going to be at each other’s throat. And then the stupidest thing is that their fights don’t last, they are not going to divorce each other. Oh no no. They will fight, shout at each other, scream abuses, sometimes cry and then in another hour or a couple of hours sit next to each other and watch some stupid comedy show like nothing ever happened.
Anyway, I’ve learnt a little on how to deal with it but it still bothers me sometimes when they call me up to just rant about their latest fight. Other days I just listen to it like I listen to the credit card calls. Last time I gave them and ultimatum whether they want me to book a divorce lawyer or a couples counseling session. Haven’t heard back yet.